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On Imperfection and Weddings • For Brides

I initially switched to shooting film because I recognized that the images I was most moved by and drawn to were shot by film photographers. So I picked up my first medium format camera and, after a steep learning curve, fell in love. Since film is a slower and more expensive (per frame) experience, I learned to shoot with a deeper intention and adopt a more fine art style with my work. Every click tells a story. Every frame is carefully crafted, exposed, and purposeful.

Over time, I was able to put my finger on it. That “quality”.

In addition to the way it handles light and the stunning skin tones, I love that film is imperfect. Much like the crackle of a vinyl record, film has a depth and emotive vibe. For me, this imperfection allowed me to tell a story with my work in a way I couldn’t while shooting digitally.

When I really thought about this, I realized that it’s not surprising at all that film fits so well with portraiture. Why? Because weddings are never, ever perfect. Because real life is never perfect.

Even with the best planners and organization, things happen. The weather changes or the flower girl has a meltdown or the musician gets strep.

But that’s the entire point.

Weddings are human. Humans are imperfect. Ultimately, the best mindset you can have about your wedding is to strive to make it authentically you. Here’s how you can do this:

  1. Figure out what is most important to you and your partner, instead letting magazines and blog articles decide for you. Be true to what you want and need because you only get to do this once.
  2. If you’re ever lost, just ask your vendors. Most vendors are happy to provide a list of recommendations or tips.
  3. Invite only the people who truly care about you and your love. Don’t get me wrong, I love big weddings as much as I love intimate ones. But this is one of the best things to consider if you want an authentic, joyous energy on your big day. There are no rules or etiquette anymore. Have people present at your wedding that will want to be truly present.
  4. Working with a coordinator, even if it’s only a month, week or day-of coordinator, will be one of the best decisions you’ll make. If you want to be able to be truly care/stress-free on your wedding day, definitely consider this.
  5. Repeat this mantra: “I can’t please everyone”. So many people will offer strong opinions about your wedding out of love, but you have to go with your gut and be true to what you want.
  6. Express your needs before you book your vendors, then let them do their thing. Do your research in advance and choose people that really fit your vision.

Don’t give yourself an ulcer stressing about the “what ifs”. Plan well, hire competent vendors, then let your big day happen as the universe wants it to.

With love,

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